Acacia DëQueer (fae/they) is a queer disabled white nonbinary intimacy professional, author, educator, and artist residing on the stolen land of the Anishinaabeg (including the Odawa, Ojibwe and Boodewadomi) and Wyandot peoples colonially known as Ann Arbor, Michigan. Acacia has intimacy coordinated films which have appeared in festivals including the Out on Film Festival, Sarasota Film Festival, Inside Out Toronto, San Fransisco Indie Fest, the National Film Festival for Talented Youth (NFFTY), and the Julien Dubuque International Film Festival. Fae have lectured on intimacy for screen and stage at universities and colleges, published in the Journal of Consent-Based Performance, and served as a Committee Member for the National Society of Intimacy Professionals where fae help to prioritize diversity and accessibility within the intimacy professionals industry. Currently, they are earning faer Intimacy Coordinator Certification through the SAG•AFTRA accredited Launchpad Training Program offered through Principle Intimacy Professionals.


An Intimacy Coordinator is a fully trained member of the Intimacy Department working from pre- through post-production on digital media including film and TV, audio recordings, and video games. Intimacy Coordinators work directly with Performers and Directors to consensually choreograph scenes of intimacy and coordinate with all major departments throughout production process.

An Intimacy Consultant works with artists including filmmakers, theatermakers, and other artists during pre-production to clarify what is needed for a project based on the script and meetings with Production staff. Consultations may include a Script Consultation.
*Intimacy Consultants do not choreograph scenes of intimacy and are not present during the production process.

An Intimacy Educator prepares students and professionals to work on scenes of intimacy in the future by teaching them best practices and risk-reduction methods. Offerings include workshops, lectures, writings, and guest appearances.

An Intimacy Director is a fully trained member of the Intimacy Department working on live performances including theater, dance, improv, burlesque, opera, and circus. Intimacy Directors work directly with Performers and Directors to consensually choreograph scenes of intimacy and coordinate with all major departments during the pre-production, production, and rehearsal process.


“Like having a stunt coordinator on set for stunts, I cannot imagine ever filming an intimacy scene again without an intimacy coordinator. I am a fan of Acacia’s forever and can’t wait to work together again.” – Alden Peters

“The expertise and passion that Acacia brought to the project enabled us to take what was on the page and make it even sexier.” – Amanda Jane Stern

“The communication and the detail was impeccable. I would always request an intimacy coordinator for any intimate scenes I may have to do in the future.” – Mimi Perez

“From the first-day on-set, it became crystal clear that although it was the actors who would be performing scenes […] Acacia’s priority was for every single person behind the scenes to feel safe too.” – Carla Posada

“Acacia’s awareness of and ability to add dynamics and an arc to an intimacy scene and guide actors in the rehearsal room to that end is what made me, as a director, look forward to having them on set.” – Molly Chiffer

“Acacia is deeply knowledgeable and sincerely committed to harm reduction in our industry.” – Kristina Valentine


• Extended Scenes of Intimacy
• Harm Reduction for Cast, Crew, and Audience Members
• LGBTQIA+ Inclusion and Representation
• World Building Through Intimacy

• Disability Inclusion and Representation
• Understanding the Gaze in Scenes of Intimacy
• Sex Worker Inclusion and Representation
• Burlesque
• Intersectionality On Screen

Acacia works in a variety of genres including sci-fi, fantasy, historical, thrillers, musicals, and more.


Perfectly Good Moment

Trailer for Perfectly Good Moment

Plot: Ruby and David have been on-and-off for 8 years. Six months after Ruby last ran out on him, she has returned. But Ruby has more in store than just a reunion.

A new independent film from director Lauren Greenhall, writer Amanda Jane Stern, featuring Broadway’s Stephen Carlile.

“Because we spent so much time working with Acacia, pages that were sexy in the script became ten times even more erotic on the screen. I’d even go so far as to say that the intimate scenes became some of the easiest ones to film because we fostered such an open environment. They were even fun.”


As You Are

Trailer for As You Are

Plot: An interabled queer couple spends the night together for the first time, and confronts their complex relationships with desire, sexuality, bodily autonomy, and what it means truly to love another person.

Official Selection

National Film Festival for Talented Youth (NFFTY)
Wicked Queer


Acacia on the set of As You Are

Want to know what else Acacia has worked on?
Visit faer Résumé.

Are you looking to hire professionals for your Intimacy Department? Try posting your positions in the Facebook group I Need An Intimacy Professional!


If you want to learn how to keep your set safe, sexy, and healthy make sure to check Acacia out on Instagram!

*In order to avoid account deletion from Instagram for discussions of intimacy, sex, nudity, and more there is a 18+ Age Restriction on Acacia’s account @intimacycoordinating.